I’m nearing the end of my high school exchange year in the United States, and looking back, I can honestly say it’s been one of the most life-changing experiences I’ve ever had. By the time I return to Germany, I will have spent ten months here (exactly 300 Days!), and each month brought something different: challenges, growth, laughter, and unforgettable memories.
Decision to do an exchange year
I had been learning English at school for a while, but my real interest began in sixth grade. Two years later, I started dreaming about doing an exchange year and mentioned it to my family when I was just 14. My parents were completely against the idea at first because they worried about me being so far from home, especially in the United States.
But I did not give up. With the support of my amazing teachers, who truly believed in me, I kept pushing for it by arranging meetings and having many conversations. Eventually, my parents agreed. That experience alone taught me the importance of determination and how valuable it is to have people who support your dreams.
Why STS?
When it came time to choose an organization, I went with STS because a friend had recommended them. I also discovered the Instagram account shortly after, where I could ask current exchange students questions and hear real experiences. I’m so glad I chose STS as right from the start, they were supportive, organized, and always helpful, whether we were meeting online or in person. All of that made me feel confident and prepared for the adventure ahead.
One of the best moments of my year was when I got the chance to take over the STS Instagram and answer questions from other students considering going abroad. Just a few months earlier, I had been the one asking those questions, so it felt special to come full circle. It was a fun and meaningful way to give back and share my journey.
Religious differences
As my application process became more serious, I started thinking more about what it would actually mean to live in the United States for a year. As a Muslim, I was nervous. I knew that most host families from the U.S. identify as Christian, and I hadn’t seen much representation of Muslim exchange students or host families. I was aware there could be cultural and religious differences, and I worried about the challenges that might come with that. But the moment I met my host family, all of that fear disappeared.
Host family
Living with a host family was a completely new experience for me, and I feel incredibly lucky. From the very beginning, my host family, siblings, even grandparents, welcomed me like one of their own. It was the first time any of us had done an exchange, so we were learning together, but they always made me feel comfortable and included.
Celebrations
With them, I got to celebrate my first Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter. All of those experiences were so much fun and helped me feel connected to American culture. Unlike many exchange students who feel especially homesick around Christmas, I simply enjoyed the experience. Ramadan was a different challenge. It was the first time I would ever be fasting completely on my own, which could have been lonely. But my host family showed incredible support by always making sure I had what I needed and getting me cute gifts. They even tried fasting with me!
That kind of thoughtfulness meant so much and taught me that I was looking at my exchange year in the wrong light. The Independence I was expecting didn’t mean doing everything alone but instead meant knowing when to ask for help and being grateful for the people who are there for you.
Of course, the cultural differences were noticeable—from food to holidays to how people communicate. But that made the experience exciting. I got to enjoy American high school events and explore new places with my host family, making every trip a special memory.
Was it always easy? No. But challenges like being far from my family, fasting alone, and making close friends taught me so much. I have become more independent, confident, and open-minded. I know this experience will shape my future in ways I am still discovering.
School
School in the U.S. was very different from what I was used to in Germany. Back home, school can feel pretty mundane. We have 14 mandatory subjects, barely any flexibility, and follow a strict weekly schedule. But here, students usually take six classes, many of which are fun electives.
My first day felt like walking into a Hollywood movie set: decorated lockers, American flags everywhere, boys playing football, and assemblies packed with games and school spirit. I loved how involved everyone was in school life through sports, clubs, and events, and I made sure to join in as much as I could.
I even started going by the name Eliza! She is like my American alter ego—more confident, bold, and not afraid to take on challenges. Taking on this new name felt like stepping into a braver version of myself who stands up for herself, speaks her mind, and embraces independence in a way I hadn’t before.
Making friends
Making friends was an interesting journey. I am very extroverted and had the advantage of a C1 level of English when I arrived, which made talking to people easier. In fact, most of my teachers did not even realize I was an exchange student until well into the semester. While talking to people came naturally, building close friendships outside of school took more time.
By Joining the gymnastics team, I was able to build close friendships, which gave me a sense of belonging by introducing me to people I could really connect with.
Advice
To anyone thinking about doing a high school exchange: do it. It will not be perfect, and it will challenge you in ways you cannot expect. But it will open your heart, your mind, and your world. My advice is to be patient, be open, and don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, you’ll be surprised at what you’re capable of!
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